Monday, February 18, 2013

Leaders Who Leave a Lasting Impact

Leaders Who Leave a Lasting Impact

In twenty minutes of conversation, Denny broke several popular “rules” of leadership. He interrupted me when I started talking too fast. He didn’t use a “love sandwhich” when challenging my unhealthy thought patterns. He didn’t cast a vision for my life.
He simply made me a better person—a better leader.
There’s a lot of hype and hot air out there today. Meeting rooms, board rooms, even churches are filled with over-promising, metaphor-abusing, catch-phrase wielding, “change the world” visionaries who get your blood flowing without ever touching your heart. None of them hold a candle to Denny.
I’ve reflected a lot about my conversation with Denny that day, and the conversations that followed. I’ve compared my time with him to times spent with other leaders, and distilled the differences to a few simple things. Nothing new, but all rarely practiced.
  1. He listened with his entire being. Denny didn’t just appear to be listening, he really listened. Rarely did he look away from me, only to jot an occasional note in his legal pad (whenever he wrote something down, I knew we would revisit it later). It wasn’t a passive listening either. He would interrupt when I began to rush my thoughts, and ask me to slow down and clarify. In all the conversations I had with Denny, I never felt for one second that he wasn’t tracking with me.
  2. He asked questions that stopped me, forced me to think, led me to clarity. Anyone can ask questions. The great ones hear silence after they ask a question. When Denny asked me a question, it stopped me. I would rush through a thought, and he would ask me to explain how I came to that conclusion, or what triggered the thought process. He would ask me to think through the repercussions of decisions I was making in both my personal and professional life. He asked for details, specifics. He wanted the whole picture before giving his thoughtful input.
  3. He shared thoughtful counsel with a humble sense of his own humanity. There was no pretense when Denny gave directive counsel. He wasn’t a fixer, never made me feel like I was a project. He spoke with confidence, yet never put me on my heels. There was no air of perfection. What he did have was a strong sense of who he was, and a caring spirit about him that made me want to follow him, listen to him, be in his space as much as possible. His counsel was well thought out, and clearly articulated. It was offered, rather than forced. Most importantly, it was good. When Denny gave counsel, I took it every time. For two reasons: First, it was abundantly clear in our conversations that he cared about me, and second, he lived the kind of life that I wanted to live. In other words, he was follow-worthy.
People like Denny move the weight of everything in their organizations, one relationship at a time. They walk into a room full of people and see individuals, not one mass lump of humanity. They command respect, loyalty and admiration by the way they live, the way they treat people, the way they communicate. At the heart of great leadership is a person who truly cares about the people they lead. A person who helps others live well.
I can honestly say, without exaggeration, that my time with Denny changed the course of my life for the better.
Question: Who in your organization can say the same about their time spent with you?
 http://michaelhyatt.com/leaders-who-leave-a-lasting-impact.html#more-6037
 

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Rick Warren: 8 Nations of Innovation


Rick Warren: 8 Nations of Innovation

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The quality of your ministry will be determined by the kind of questions you have the courage to ask yourself.
Great innovations come from great questions. The quality of your ministry will be determined by the kind of questions you have the courage to ask yourself. If you don’t ask the right questions, you won’t get the right answers. If you don’t get the right answers, you won’t build the right strategy for your ministry. And, if you don’t have the right strategy, you’ll never get the results you hope for. It is critical for you to ask the right questions!
Asking the right questions is a skill you can develop. And you can get good at it. I want to suggest to you eight questions of innovation. These questions will help you innovate—no matter your area of ministry.
I call them the eight nations of innovation, but these nations aren’t geographic. They’re nations of imagination. I’ve used these exact questions to build Saddleback Church, the Purpose Driven Movement, The PEACE Plan, the Global PEACE Coalition and a number of other ministries.

1. Termination: What do I first need to stop?

You can have so many irons in the fire that you put out the fire. The great Austrian economist Joseph Schumpeter used to call this creative destruction. One of my mentors, Peter Drucker, used to call it systematic abandonment. When the horse is dead, dismount. This is a real key to success.
Here’s an example: For many years at Saddleback Church, we had a midweek Bible study, and we had a thousand people coming each week. Despite that, we decided to end the Bible study. Why? We weren’t satisfied with a thousand people. So we decentralized the study material and funneled it into small groups. And so today, because we terminated our midweek service, we now have more than 32,000 people in small group Bible studies all the way from Santa Monica to San Diego. There are cities all across Southern California where Saddleback small groups meet. This never would have happened if we hadn’t asked the question, “What do we first need to stop?” Asking this question helped us see the necessity of terminating our midweek service.

2. Collaboration: How do we do it faster, how do we do it larger, how do we do it cheaper—with a team?

If you want to start a movement, you need a team. Your team can include paid staff, but the real path to success is to create a team of volunteers. One of the secrets of Saddleback’s growth is that we’ve mobilized thousands of volunteers. A few years back, during 40 Days of Community, our church fed every homeless person in Orange County. We fed 42,000 homeless people three meals a day for 40 days. We couldn’t have done it without volunteers working together as a team.

3. Combination: What could we mix together to create something new?

One way to innovate is to take two existing things and combine them together. Years ago we combined the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and the eight beatitudes of Jesus to create Celebrate Recovery. It’s now the official recovery program in 17 state prison systems, and used by tens of thousands of churches. More than 15,000 people at Saddleback have gone through Celebrate Recovery. Why? We combined two existing things and created something new and innovative.

4. Elimination: What part could we take out to make it simpler?

Software designers who are truly innovative ask this question. Steve Case, who founded AOL, says we always overestimate the amount of complexity people will put up with. So at Saddleback, we ask what we can take out to make things simpler. When I moved here to South Orange County in 1980, I was 25 years old. I was starting a church in a place where land was going for a million dollars an acre. I knew I’d need 50 acres someday, but until then, we eliminated our need for a building. We went 15 years and grew to more than 15,000 in attendance without a building. We used four different high schools, camps, banks, parks and tents. In the first 13 years of Saddleback Church, we used 89 different facilities in Orange County. We became one of the largest churches in America before we ever had a building.

5. Reconstitution: What has died, but we could bring it back to life in a new form?

Ask yourself, "What worked twenty years ago and died?" What great idea from the past could you bring back, but in a new format? For 2,000 years the Christian church has done systematic training. Catholics called it catechism. But a few years back, it had pretty much died. We reformatted systematic training for the Internet age, and we’ve had thousands go through it.

6. Rejuvenation: How could we change the purpose or motivation for doing it?

Sometimes changing the how and why makes all the difference. There are probably 1 billion health plans in America. So why did we start emphasizing biblical health through the Daniel Plan? We knew that for people to fulfill their God-given destiny, they needed to be healthy. We helped people change their motivation for both losing weight and exercising, and we changed the delivery system by having small groups work together to encourage one another to get healthy. Listen to this: In 2011, the Saddleback Church family lost an average of 4,000 pounds a day! Why? We provided a new motivation and created a new delivery system for dieting.

7. Illumination: How can we look at this in a new light?

When you’ve been working with something for a while, it’s hard to look at it with fresh eyes. I remember a number of years ago, our bathroom mirror cracked. Here was this big crack that went down the middle of the mirror, and it really bugged me at first. I told my wife, “We’ve got to change that.” Yet I didn’t. A couple of days later, I said, “That mirror really bugs me,” but again I didn’t change it. About six months later, it occurred to me I still hadn’t changed out the mirror because it no longer bugged me like it did at first.
We have an amazing adaptability. We just get used to stuff, and all of a sudden, we don’t see the problems anymore. We no longer see the critical issues like we should. So it takes some new eyes to come in and see what you need to do in a new and innovative way. Ask your congregation what they see. Ask them, “How could we do this in a different way?” Find out what innovations they suggest. And take a look at other churches and see how they do things differently from you.

8. Fascination: How could we make it more interesting?

Whatever you’re doing, try to figure out how you can make it more interesting or attractive. For instance, we wanted to create a sense of expectancy in our weekend services. We wanted our services to start with people sensing God in our midst and that lives were about to be changed. So we thought, “What would encourage this spirit of expectancy?”
We came up with several factors: having members praying for the services all week; having members praying during the services; having enthusiastic members bringing their unchurched friends to the service; having a history of life-changing services; music that celebrates the transformational nature of God; and a worship team that faithfully believes lives will be transformed during the service.
If you ask the right questions, they will lead you to the right answers. And the right answers will help you build a solid strategy for your ministry. Then believe that God will lead you to success.


http://www.outreachmagazine.com/features/5146-rick-warren-8-nations-of-innovation.html?print

Saturday, February 16, 2013

Teamwork Lessons from a Toddler

Teamwork Lessons from a Toddler


It's Marriage Monday over at Chrysalis, and today's topic is children.


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While learning to walk, Jonathon had clung happily to our fingers, leaning on us for support. We had held him safely between us.

Now that he could walk on his own, however, he wanted nothing to do with either parent. If I carried him, he squirmed to get “down.” Once on terra firma, he scurried away as fast as his wobbly legs would carry him.

Terrified for his safety, I dashed after him, clamping my hand around his chubby fist. Then I endured ear-splitting screams of protest as he tried to free himself from my restrictive vice grip. (Oh, and the disapproving glances and tut-tut head-shakes of passers-by who assumed I was needlessly harsh with my adorable toddler!)

Several weeks into this new routine, Jonathon tried a new tactic. We were walking through the market – me fighting to focus on my shopping list as my tiny son was fighting to get loose from me – when suddenly he stopped struggling.

Now, I normally have s.l.o.w. reflexes. I’ll drop a bottle of soda, think to myself, “When this hits my foot, it’s sure gonna hurt!” yet be unable to move my foot to avoid the pain and eventual bruise.

Yet on this particular day, my physical reaction miraculously occurred even as my brain registered, “He’s stopped struggling. Something is about to happen.”

I gripped Jonathon’s hand tighter and, with lightening speed, rotated my wrist a half turn, moving my hand away from him. Sure enough, with a strategic gleam in his eyes, Jonathon opened his mouth and chomped his rasor-sharp baby teeth...into his own pudgy hand.

Shock, confusion, and dismay replaced defiance on his face. Pain registered, and he began to cry. I comforted him, and then we walked on, hand-in-hand without resistance.

I felt grateful Jonathon had experienced the natural consequence of his biting. He had bitten, and he had experienced the pain.

And then I thought: Daniel.

Jonathon will try this on Daniel.

I’ve got to tell him before Jonathon tries this on him!

That evening, before bed, I recounted the brief incident to my husband, concluding with the recommendation, “So if you feel him stop pulling to get away, don't think; just rotate your hand away from him.”

The very next morning, Daniel took Jonathon on a quick errand. He returned with a meek toddler and a knowing wink. After settling Jonathon down for his nap, he told me,

It happened just like you said! I was dragging him down the isle. He was fighting to get away from me the whole time, when suddenly he stopped. My brain was thinking, “All of these bananas are too ripe. Don’t they have any gree-” when suddenly it switched to, “Rotate your wrist!”

He chomped down SO hard! It took five minutes to stop his crying.

The whole time, what kept going through my mind was, “If he had bit my hand, I wouldn’t have thought. I just would have slapped him across the face as hard as I could.”


Daniel paused, shook his head at the thought, and resumed.

I’m really glad I was prepared.

Jonathon turned out to be a two-bite baby. Natural consequences nipped what could have been a nightmarish habit in the bud.

I still shudder to think what could have happened if I’d not told Daniel about my near-biting incident with Jonathon.

What if Jonathon had bitten him? What if Daniel had slapped our toddler across the face? With whom would I have sided? How would that have impacted our less-than-five-year-old marriage? How would Daniel’s image of himself as a father been altered? How would Daniel’s relationship to his son been changed?

Daniel and I learned some important lessons about teamwork that day:

1) Keep each other "in the loop."



2) Prevent situations that encourage "siding" with a child, against each other.

3) Refuse to play tug-of-war when there's a child between us.


We also learned how vital it was for us to keep clinging together. To keep leaning on each other – and on the One who has always safely held us – for support. 


 http://cherionethingivelearned.blogspot.com/2011/09/teamwork-lessons-from-toddler.html

Welcome to The PURSE-onality Challenge!


Complaint-Free: Who Me?


When I walked into Barnes and Noble and started browsing through a copy of A Complaint-Free World five years agoI considered myself the most optimistic, positive, encouraging person I knew.
In fact, I joked to my husband that we needed to buy two (maybe three) dozen copies to give all the negative people in my life who drag me down with their never-ending complaints, criticism, and gossip.
Than I read a little farther. And the author had the nerve to suggest that of all the negative people in my life, I might be the worst of the worst! 

That. Made. Me. Mad. 
So I decided to take the Complaint-Free challenge: 21 days with no complaining. Just to prove how wrong this author was, I even ordered his silly little purple bracelet.
The instructions were simple:  I was to start each day with the bracelet on my left wrist. As soon as I caught myself complaining, criticizing, or gossiping, I was to move the bracelet to the other wrist. 
For accountability, I told my students what I was doing. 

Did they ever warm up to the “challenge” of letting me know when I complained. In the first class, my bracelet switched arms five times in just three minutes!

The shocker was that each time took me totally by surprise. I wasn’t even thinking critical thoughts, when suddenly, “Mrs. G? Is that complaining I hear?”
I soon discovered that my optimistic self-image resembled reality the way a chick flick resembles marriage: hardly at all.
Sound Familiar?
___ “My life would be much easier without the negative people who drag me down.
___ “I speak Sarcasm fluently.” 
___ “When I see a type-o on a sign, I have to point it out to someone.”
___ “I’m surrounded by difficult people at work and/or at home.”
___ “It’s not really gossip; everything we say about her is true.”
___ “There’s an impossible person in my life who will never change.”
___ “I struggle with anxiety, fear, and/or depression.”
___ “Negative things people have said keep popping back into my mind.”
If two or more sound familiar, you’re invited to take The PURSE-onality Challenge!
What is The PURSE-onality Challenge?
Quite literally, it’s 31 days of replacing “baditude” with God’s word and gratitude.
I’ve tried the Complaint-Free challenge many times in the last five years. But just trying to stop old bad habits was never enough; I needed to start new new ones to replace the old.
So for one month, we’ll be focusing on four positive habits: spotlighting Personality strengths, eliminating complaints, journaling gratitude, and memorizing scripture.
Take The PURSE-onality Challenge if…
...you feel convicted to change your thoughts and words.
...you’re at your wit’s end with a particular relationship.
...you desire more hope, joy, and peace in your life.

Check out our website and Facebook page for the nitty-gritty details!  

You’ll also find three free audio messages: 

 
 
Cheri Gregory has been married to her pastor/teacher/musician college sweetheart, Daniel, for 23 years. The Gregorys are enjoying their newly “empty nest,” now that Jonathon (19) has joined Annemarie (21) at college. Cheri is a high school English teacher and Christian speaker/author. Connect with her via Facebook, cheri@cherigregory.com, and www.CheriGregory.com.
 
 http://purseonalitychallenge.blogspot.com/p/welcome-to-purse-onality-challenge.html
 
 

6 Characteristics of Spiritual Leaders

6 Characteristics of Spiritual Leaders

I am mostly offline, attending a business conference. I have asked several bloggers to post in my absence. This is a guest post by Bob Hamp, the Executive Pastor of Pastoral Care at Gateway Church in Southlake, Texas. You can find his blog or follow him on Twitter. If you want to guest post on this blog, check out the guidelines here.
As believers, we recognize the value of imitating Jesus and His leadership style. But if we really think about it, it’s strange that we try to emulate a leader who never developed an organization, regularly encouraged people to stop following Him, and ultimately saw His death as the pinnacle of His accomplishments.

What kind of perspective must a leader have to place high value on these kinds of strategies? Jesus was not a manager. His primary role was to function as a spiritual leader.

Not all leaders in religious organizations are spiritual leaders. This is not a criticism as much as a distinction. Distinguishing spiritual leadership from other forms of leadership can free people from unrealistic expectations of some leaders.
At the same time, making this distinction can help identify who the spiritual leaders in your organization are. Here are six characteristics that identify most spiritual leaders:
  1. They lead others into their own encounters with God. One of the most effective things about Jesus’ lifestyle was that He didn’t switch into another mode to introduce His disciples to the reality of God. Whether standing in the synagogue or picking wheat along the path, interacting with the Father was so natural that others around Him could not help but do the same. Whether a spiritual leader is training a new employee or working through a difficult conflict resolution, his followers will discover their own connection to God more deeply in the process.
  2. They lead others to discover their own purpose and identity. Spiritual leadership is characterized by great generosity. A spiritual leader genuinely wants others to fully discover who they were made to be. Workplace issues and strategic development become tools to help followers discover their own identity and overcome obstacles standing in their way. People functioning in an area of their created identity and strength will always be more productive than those who are simply trying to fill a position or role.
  3. They lead others into transformation—not just production. When the goal is spiritual growth and health, production will always be a natural outcome. People function at their peak when they function out of identity. Helping your followers discover that their own transformation can happen on the job will engender loyalty and a high level of morale. Spiritual leadership fosters passion in those who follow. Passion is the ingredient that moves people and organizations from production to transformational impact.
  4. They impact their atmosphere. While we may not stop a tempest with our words, spiritual leaders recognize that they can change the “temperature” of a room, interaction, or relationship. Changing the atmosphere is like casting vision, only it is immediate. When there is tension, fear, or apathy, a spiritual leader can transform the immediate power of these storms and restore vision, vitality and hope. A spiritual leader can fill a room with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness and gentleness, even while speaking hard things.
  5. They help people see old things in new ways. Many people are stuck not in their circumstances, but in their perspectives and paradigms. The word “repent” means “to think differently, or to think in a different way.” Jesus called people to look again at old realities through new eyes. Changing ways of thinking always precedes meaningful change.
  6. They gain a following because of who they are—not because of a position they hold. Spiritual leaders can be found in secular organizations, in the same way managers and organizational leaders can be found in religious ones. Spiritual leaders influence more than they direct, and they inspire more than they instruct. They intuitively recognize that they are serving something—and Someone—larger than themselves and their own objectives.
Question: Who is someone who has been a spiritual leader in your life? What sets this person apart from other leaders?


 http://michaelhyatt.com/characteristics-of-spiritual-leaders.html

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  • Jon Stolpe, Christ-follower, husband, dad, engineer, manager, runner, sax player, group life fan, and the list goes on...
    I have a friend, Dave, who has been a spiritual leader in my life over the past several years.  He doesn't work for a church or hold any "spiritual" positions of authority.  In fact, he's an auto mechanic.  But Dave cares for me.  He takes time to see how I'm doing and to ask me the tough questions.  He's walked beside me during some pretty dark days.  He's there to listen.  He's there to point me to God.  He sees the positive in the dark clouds that linger.  He's open in his own struggles as a husband and a dad.  I'm blessed to have a friend and spiritual example like Dave.

  • That reminds me of my old boss Eric. It is such a blessing to have people like that in your life.

  • Bob Hamp
    Jon...this is EXACTLY what I was trying to convey...sometimes those who occupy the non-vocational positions can impact us the most. How great that you have such a friend/leader in your life!!

  • Michele Cushatt, I am a public speaker, communications coach, and writer
     Wow, Jon. Incredible. What a gift!

  • Jim Martin
    Jon, what a wonderful friend you have in Dave!  You have also provided us with a model of how we might be that kind of friend.  Thanks.

  • kimanzi constable, I help people stop settling, stop making excuses, so that they can live the life of their dreams.
    My pastor since I was 14 years old, he lead me to the Lord and has always been there for me no matter what. He prayed hard for me when I turned away from the Lord for a few years, it helped!

  • Michele Cushatt, I am a public speaker, communications coach, and writer
    Thanks for sharing, Kimanzi. I know of several pastors who are in the trenches praying alongside someone right now. You give them hope and strength to continue!

  • kimanzi constable, I help people stop settling, stop making excuses, so that they can live the life of their dreams.
    Thank you Michele, don't know where I'd be with out his prayer and support!

  • Kimanzi,  I would agree with Michele. Pastors draw encouragement from testimonies like yours.

  • kimanzi constable, I help people stop settling, stop making excuses, so that they can live the life of their dreams.
    I will have to let him know more how much I appreciate his ministry!

  • Brilliant post, Bob. I love how the spiritual leader directs in so many aspects of our journey--discipleship, sanctification, vocational, perspective. I have seen so many of these traits in spiritual leaders whom I respect.
    How do I grow to become a spiritual leader to others?

  • Bob Hamp
    Thanks Rob! I think the beauty of a spiritual leader is that if you follow them, you become a spiritual leader also. Pursue your own spiritual growth, and it will affect your relationships, and then, it will affect those you relate to. Become yourself! Others will be naturally drawn.

  • Michele Cushatt, I am a public speaker, communications coach, and writer
    Spiritual leadership always multiplies -- internally and externally.

  • It's always so reassuring when God reveals that He knows/knew what He's doing!

  • And when He doesn't reveal things so quickly in present circumstances, it's good to remind ourselves where He's directed, provided, and enabled in the past. Studying Scripture aids in developing a heart of understanding as well as eyes to see and ears to hear what God is doing in the present.

  • Michele Cushatt, I am a public speaker, communications coach, and writer
    Isn't it though?!

  • Jim Martin
    Bob, you express this reality very, very well!

  • The names include Brad, Mike and Ross.  I think the thing they all impressed me with was their dedication to seeing me grow into the leader God wanted me to be.  Not the leader they thought the church needed me to be.
    I like your third point.  Too often the church sees a high potential person as just that, someone who can be productive to help the church get things done.  We need to be equipping people for doing ministry in life, not just in the church.  We spend 1.5 hours a week at church and 40+ hours a week at work.  How are we equipping people to be in ministry where they are most?
    People are God's vessels to accomplish His will, not our tools to have more productive churches.  Great post.

  • Bob Hamp
    Thanks Dave. I think we live in a time when more attention is turning to being Christ in the workplace and in every day life. It's a good time to be alive! I love that you have a list of names!!

  •  Dave, I think people who love the Lord want to make an impact beyond the Sunday morning scene. I know, when it comes to writing, I want to know how to improve and make a difference. When I see it modeled in others (like Jeff Goins' article yesterday), I absorb that information and apply it. The challenge at times is helping people see how to apply faith lessons to their particular situation in the work place. Stories of what others are doing helps.

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    Last year, I was introduced to Rob Bell's "Nooma" videos during a small group study. They're short, 5-15 minute videos about a particular aspect of the christian life and how it's applied outside the church. They were helpful for me to understand how to bring the gospel out of the church and onto the street.

  • Jim Martin
    Thanks Dave.  I like your point in the second paragraph.  Most of ministry happens not in a church building but wherever we spend most of our time.  For most of us, this will be work and home.  It is so important that those of us who are church leaders legitimize the everyday ministries of others.  This everyday ministry really is a part of the church's ministry.
    Good comment!

  • I think I heard JR Vasser say this at a Work As Worship conference:  "The word secular is not in the Bible.  There is not sacred work and secular work.  For God, it is all sacred!

  • Daren Sirbough, Pianist, Musician, Leader, Educator.
    That's a very true point. Whether our deeds are for a Christian or non Christian audience, they are sacred because we are working for God. Great reminder of that truth.

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    You may not realize it but you night be the only image of Christ in many people's lives each day. That's an awesome responsibility--a reminder that character is important.

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    I've had many spiritual leaders who became "road signs" in my life to steer me in the right direction. The thing about road signs is that you usually see them only once along your way. They can be a flashing detour sign, warning me of danger ahead, an offramp sign telling me to get off the highway right now, or a mileage marker, reminding me of how far I've travelled so far. And although they come once in your life, they have an incredible impact on your safety when traveling through an unfamiliar town.
    My first encounter with a spiritual leader was a pastor named Randy who spoke after Saturday evening concerts at a church near my boyhood town. He had an unusual method of preaching. One evening after a Sweet Comfort Band concert, I heard him say, "Verily verily...that means 'for sure dude.'" Wait...your not supposed to laugh in church? But his humor helped me understand the Bible in a different perspective. When a friend invited me to his church, I listened to a pastor who transformed the "saints" in the Bible to normal, everyday people who had problems of their own. His teaching style was "hey, let's go through this and understand it together." He still ministers to me through his podcasts, and continues to impact my life.
    So sometimes God brings many spiritual leaders into your life, like specialists who can help you face a particular problem. I'm thankful that I've had many spiritual leaders in my life.

  • Bob Hamp
    "For sure dude!"...I love that and will likely quote it one day! I also like the road sign metaphor and the various ways you applied it.
    I notice the two guys you mention both made spiritual life normal and natural. That could be another significant characteristic! Thanks for your thoughts..

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    For sure.

  • Your observations remind us all that, when we serve the Lord, we influence others. Sometimes we don't even know that we've made an impact in another person's life. Your words are encouraging.

  • Daren Sirbough, Pianist, Musician, Leader, Educator.
    I'm learning that as I lead how powerful our words are. And to echo what has already been said in this blog, it's not the position which gives the impact.

  • chris vonada, branded... but not tattoo'd
    Good stuff Bob! I believe we all have a role as spiritual leaders, and that is to help influence people to a growing relationship with Jesus Christ... your post shines a beautiful light on this theme!

  • Bob Hamp
    Thanks Chris for your kind words!

  • John Richardson, Personal Development Blogger
    My good friend, John Hansen, has been a spiritual mentor for many years. He used to be my pastor, and I had the privilege of being in a discipleship group for a year with him. John has a heart for God, and has some incredible life stories. What I like about John, is that he is real. He talks about the good times as well as the bad. He talks about struggles and triumphs. He asks the tough questions.
    Even though my wife and I have moved away and we don't attend his church anymore, I still am able to keep in touch through Facebook.

  • Steve Hawkins wrote in another comment about a pastor who made the "saints" come alive as real people. I love the fact that Scripture shows us men and women struggling through faith issues and overcoming obstacles and their own frailties to serve God. When we meet people like that, authentic believers, we're attracted to their influence in our lives.

  • Jim Martin
    John, you've put your finger on something so important as you describe your former pastor.  You describe him as real.  Personal authenticity is so important for any spiritual mentor.

  • Rachel Lance, Love serving leaders via tech services at the WCA; on the slow plan to MSLIS, currently focused on getting the hang of motherhood.
    Great post, Bob. I love the line, "When the goal is spiritual growth and health, production will always be a natural outcome. People function at their peak when they function out of identity." There is a lot to think on in those two sentences alone - I have a couple people in mind to share & discuss this with. Can't wait.

  • Bob Hamp
    Thanks Rachel! Enjoy those discussions!

  • Jack Lynady, Family Man | Upper-cervical Chiropractor | Writer
    Nice Read. I call them Sages. Like Jesus they are often discounted, overlooked, and avoided by the "ones in charge".  It's a big reason the church is in the state it is in. These folks walk with God but don't typically follow the seminary track. They are a rare treasure to those who find them....

  • Bob Hamp
    Strange isn't it? Sadly the spiritual leader and the leadership position do not always overlap. The good thing about that to me, is the example that seminary and church staff positions do not necessarily represent the final step in spiritual growth. Thanks Jack

  • My Dad! I'm proud to say he is a gifted spiritual leader and I've had the privilege to be led by him. A pastor for a number of years he rejoined the secular work force when I was a teenager. He's held influential positions as an engineer often serving as production or plant manager. He leads from godly principals and has often impacted others personal lives. Men going through hard times he takes out for lunch and points to scripture, teams floundering he simply lays out ethical guidelines, he cheer-leads, and prays. He doesn't see himself as the spiritual leader others do, thinking he left ministry behind, but I see it and I'm so grateful for his influence!

  • Cheri Gregory, Christian speaker & writer, English teacher, Personality Trainer, wife of a teacher/pastor/musician, mother of two teens, servant to three psycho cats & one ADHD Keeshond. In my copious spare time, I love to shop, horseback ride, and scrapbook!
    Beck --
    My first response was my father, too! He's been working with AIDS patients since 1981, offering compassionate whole patient care, including spiritual care.
    Spirituality is so fully integrated into his life and identity, it flows through everything he does, whether working at the county STD clinic, listening empathetically to me, my brother, or one of our four cousins, or caring for my mother who has Alzheimer's Disease.
    As with so many spiritual leaders, he leads by example...not so much by what he does but through who he is, day in and day out, regardless of circumstances.

  • Jim Martin
    Cheri, your dad sounds like an incredible person.  Thanks for telling us about him.

  • He sounds like a wonderful man! I'm sorry to hear his metal is being tested by such challenging circumstances, but it sounds like your family is blessed to have his care.

  • Bob Hamp
    I LOVE that your dad is who you think of! How wonderful for anyone to have a father who accurately represents God the Father.

  •  Thanks Bob. He's not perfect for sure, but he is good.

  •  Beck,
    You remind me of my father's influence which is coming more and more to the fore as I grow older. I live in Wisconsin and the rest of my family are in Texas. A brother's recent cancer diagnosis has surprised us all. In the midst of this news, my brother has shown an indomitable spirit ("Tom, I'm in a win-win situation") and my father has responded as an example of, in my two sisters' words, "a prayer warrior."
    I don't enjoy the way character has been revealed but I am thankful that true character has arisen out of the difficulties.
    Thanks so much for sharing your story and helping to bring my own to the surface.

  • Jim Martin
    Tom, thank you for sharing with us a part of your family's story in some very trying circumstances.  You brother and your dad sound like they have an incredible spirit and character.

  • I appreciate you taking the time to share your own story! What a gift a godly father is. I know I don't take it lightly and it sounds as though you don't either. I'm sorry to hear your father's character is shining through under such painful circumstances. I hope his care eases the ache for you all especially your brother.

  • Jim Martin
    Beck, what a tribute to your dad.  Many of us see a person in a particular role or function.  The child of that person, however, sees that same person when no one else is looking.  For the child of a pastor to speak the way you did regarding your dad is powerful!

  • Julie Rains
    Friends, Young Life leaders, and pastors who...believe in absolute truth but know that God has a unique design and call for each of us, so we don't all look alike or walk in lockstep; show that being extremely compassionate doesn't mean compromising holiness; are willing to admit struggles in order to acknowledge the power of grace as transformative; and demonstrate Christian community, treasuring everyone regardless of status and encouraging mutual support.

  • Ginacox1
    Excellent post. I teach leadership in our ministry school
    And will definitely share this post. Anyway to correct the misspelling of "characteristics" in the title?

  • Justin Wise, Social strategist. Burgeoning chef. Des Moines advocate.
    Gina ... Michael is on vacation and will be back next week. I'll pass along the word and have it corrected then. Thanks.

  • Cheri Gregory, Christian speaker & writer, English teacher, Personality Trainer, wife of a teacher/pastor/musician, mother of two teens, servant to three psycho cats & one ADHD Keeshond. In my copious spare time, I love to shop, horseback ride, and scrapbook!
    "When the goal is spiritual growth and health, production will always be a natural outcome....Spiritual leadership fosters passion in those who follow."
    Seems to me that compassion is a key part of #3. Instead of  using external rewards and punishments to motivate, a spiritual leader develops caring relationships.


  • Thad Puckett, VP of Technology at The Karis Group - @ThadPuckett
    I am blessed to work at a company full of spiritual leaders.  Mike is my direct boss, and he is a servant leader in every way.  He constantly sets an excellent example for me as a spiritual leader.

  • Justin Wise, Social strategist. Burgeoning chef. Des Moines advocate.
    Wow. What a daily gift!

  • Jim Martin
    What a blessing for you and others, Thad.

  • Thanks for this. To round out a nice "perfect 7", I'd add that spiritual leaders direct people to Scripture where they will discover God's will and ways and grace in Christ.

  • Bob Hamp
    Love it Lon! The number of perfection, and a great point!

  • Justin Wise, Social strategist. Burgeoning chef. Des Moines advocate.
    Lon .... Do you have a practical example of when you have done this in the past?

  • CC Shumake
    This by far one of the most concise yet powerful blogs I've read on spiritual leadership; evokes pratical application to authentic leadership in every day circumstances which points others to Jesus Christ.
    Thank you

  • Bob Hamp
    Thanks CC!! Your words are very encouraging! I wanted the points to be practical and applicable. I am glad to hear that i hit the target!

  • Bob, I am very touched by your article. Thank you and bless you.  Without a doubt, my father was the most incredible spiritual leader a daughter could have.  He modeled humility, grace, love, tenderness, patience, resilience, strength -- in short, he modeled the essence of Christianity.  I am happy to pay tribute to the late Capt. James Monroe Hingson, USN.  He went Home in 1999 followed 9 months later by his bride of 57 years.  I was fortunate to have them both as my parents.

  • Jory, I am sorry for your losses. It sounds that you gained more from them than you could ever lose. I am loving how many people are naming their fathers as their spiritual leaders. It restores hope in our future!

  • Maurice F. Overholt, I am a father, worship leader and Christ follower, conductor, composer, and keyboardist. I am passionate about training and equipping worship leaders and musicians.
    I appreciate this post; it was a good reminder to me of what I should be trying to do in my life.
    My father is one of my spiritual leaders.  When he walks onto a job or into a room, people gravitate towards him.  When he is at a restaurant, people want to talk to him.  Almost always he has a word of encouragement for them or prays for them.  Recently he spent 15 minutes talking to me about my own vision and what he sees for me.  Who couldn't be attracted to that?
    Another leader is a pastor of a local church who was a colleague of mine in an earlier job when I was overwhelmed.  He came along side me and walked me through some pretty tough times.  As with my dad, whenever he walks into a space, people sense his presence because he is positive and God centered.
    My mentor is another.  I am so grateful for these people.

  • Maurice...I think that you hit on another characteristic! Spiritual leaders are attractive and people want to talk to them.

  • Lisa Colon DeLay, Writer, artist, teacher, impromptu humorist, spiritual formation provocateur, mother of a special needs child, calling thoughtful readers unto me.
    What salient points! Bob, thank you.
    Leadership, like being as artist, is about seeing well. It's primarily  about a way of being and serving not about accomplishing an agenda (personal or otherwise). I think so many people who lead or want to lead never take this into consideration.
    Would that all leaders take your insights!
    I'm after a spiritual director as a leader for me, and hope for an appointment soon. She's like a spiritual Gandalf (Lord of the Rings), abounding in love, the presence of the Lord, and providing plenty of space to realize the omnipresence of God. Asking the right questions and finding where God is in all things are precious gifts a spiritual leader can bestow.

  • Asking questions. Such a strong tool in the hands of a spiritual leader. I hope you find the leader and guidance you are after. Leadership, especially spiritual leadership is definitely an art form. I love that. Thanks Lisa.

  • Michele Cushatt, I am a public speaker, communications coach, and writer
    Bob, you have been the instigator of a great conversation at the breakfast table this morning. Thank you! Over the past few years, we've experienced a lack of spiritual leadership in our church community. But I grew up with a dad who is a strong spiritual leader, in a church that was led by a devoted group of Godly men and women. All that to say, I've seen the outcomes of both. Sobering. When faced with the absence of spiritual leadership, the temptation was to become negative, critical. But we're learning it's a prime opportunity for us to step up and hopefully become what we need from others. Thanks for leading us with YOUR counsel.

  • Michele, I always love to instigate stimulating conversation!! I love your insight. It is too easy to criticize, and become the very opposite of what we are seeking. I do believe we are in a generation in which spiritual leaders are beginning to really take their place and become more visible in the church. Sadly, there will always be tares among the wheat, but as you said, our job is to be sure that we are wheat! Converse on!

  • Michele Cushatt, I am a public speaker, communications coach, and writer
    I'm seeing some of those same "signs of life" when it comes to spiritual leadership in the church. Exciting!

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    Where there's no vision, the people perish.

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    I've noticed in my own experience that some of the strongest churches have programs for men to help them become men of God. Passivity is an unspoken social disease that many men succumb to because of their past, family, or other experience. When men come together and sharpen iron with each other, some truly great things can happen.

  • Great Post!!! I think it is crucial to determine what a spiritual leader looks like. I believe we have an innate desire to follow these leaders, even after we become one. The role of leader is often occupied by people who want to be followed for personal gain, but your example of a spiritual leader seems to be quite selfless.
    By the way, you fit this role quite well in my own life.
    You're a Gentleman and a Jedi!

  • Thanks Jaymes! Nice to see you over here. Your comment made me smile.

  • Justin Wise, Social strategist. Burgeoning chef. Des Moines advocate.
    A jedi! Now how do I get a title like that?! ;)

  • There is a special training you have to go through...it includes a little hand to hand combat, and working on your father issues. ;)

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    Spiritual leaders are readers!

  • I think of three people immediately. The first is Steve Shaver, at Austin Christian Fellowship in Austin TX (and previously Cross Camp). He has had the biggest influence on my own spiritual leadership for most of the above reasons. The second is Don Ellsworth, Worship Pastor at Austin Ridge Bible Church, and the third (and most recent influencer in my life) is Paul Kemp, lead pastor at Fellowship Bible Church in Austin, TX. I am so grateful for each of these men.  Thank you, Pastor Hamp, for pointing out this important leadership distinction!

  • Connie Mcculloch
    The Kuehn's have been my mentors for 20 years.  They respond from the heart of God with Scripture passages.  They listen yet "never tell you what you should or should not do".  They ask questions and with their questions "steer you in a direction" as God reveals His desire within the situation.  I Corinthians 3:5-11 comes to mind when thinking of the Kuehn's.  They plant... they water... but GOD gives the growth.  A wonderful couple ... sharing God's love with many... They are a blessing to my son, daughter-in-law and me... "Thank you Lord, for the Kuehn's... Bless them Lord as they continue to serve you for Kingdom purpose and Kingdom living unto Your glory!!  In Jesus' Name... Amen!!

  • Nadya Dickson
    Ron is a new addition to my circle of colleagues, a true influencer and spritual leader. You cannot be anything but authentic in his presence. There is not only permission but a compelling atmosphere to reach for the impossible when around him. I look forward to continuing to build our organization under his mentorship and though he seeks no position am praying he will become or next chairman.

  • Great example Nadya. I love how you describe that he influences even when he is NOT the chairman. What a strength, to compel others to be honest, just by being so yourself.

  • Laurinda Bellinger, Proj. Manager by day, Writer by night, Engineer by trade, Speaker sometimes & Christian always. A passion for leadership, wine, good friends & science fiction.
    Great post Bob!  The spiritual leaders that have had the greatest impact on my life also were very transparent about their strengths and failures.  It's something I strive to do as well.  Thanks for sharing this.

  • Justin Wise, Social strategist. Burgeoning chef. Des Moines advocate.
    Transparency is key, right? If we don't know how you both win and lose, we're only getting half the story, right?

  • My pleasure LB! I can start a new list for part two of this post. So far Transparency, and making spiritual things seem natural have stood out in this comment string! Thanks!

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    One of the things that changed my life as a Christian was when I bought a Bible that  I could understand. Right now, I'm reading the New Living Translation. When I began to understand God's word more clearly, I discovered some startling things about the people in the Bible. Abraham lied; Jacob cheated; Moses murdered and complained; and David committed adultery. I just couldn't see all of this beyond the "Thee's" and "Thou's".

  • Even before you asked the question, I thought of my friend Gerd. He ran a GM dealership near the small town in which I served as pastor. What set him apart? He had a quiet integrity, a depth of character, that I observed even before I knew him well. As I came to know him, I recognized that this man was a man who studied the scriptures and spent time in prayer. He saturated his counsel with Scripture and personal experience.

  • Justin Wise, Social strategist. Burgeoning chef. Des Moines advocate.
    The world needs more Gerds!

  •  Amen. And reading other comments, we've been blessed with more.

  • I couldn't agree more! These comments have really been encouraging. The world is filled with Gerds, who are hidden in places of anonymity, waiting for you and I to show up with our need. Thanks T!

  • Steve Hawkins, Content Developer and new blogger.
    Isn't it awesome when you meet someone who lives a life of character and integrity and then discover later on that he or she is a Christian? I think that type of life brings more people to Christ than anything else.

  •  Yes, and although integrity isn't exclusive to Christian believers, I'm not surprised when a person of integrity also has a strong, vital faith in Jesus Christ.

  • Sarahdicus2007
    Errol was a teacher who planted seeds lovingly lloooong before I became a believer. He died before i became a believer. Finding a leader willing to let you follow is not easy. The last two sentences are my favorate, Bob. But, how do u WORK at it, and when do you wait to be aligned with it?

  • Sarah, the best way I know to answer, is that there is a difference between striving and diligence. Striving seems needlessly difficult, and often feels like movement against the grain. Diligence is staying with the things we know to do, when perhaps many other things call to us. Hard work can be easy, when it is not striving. I hope this answers some of what you asked.

  • Pauline Logan
    During a very low time in my life sixteen years ago, a friend came alongside me  with friendship and  spriitual mentoring. She allowed me to stay in her home for a time, soaking up God's Word. She put her own plans for the week on hold and made herself available to help me in whatever ways she could. This dear friend continues to pray for me and my three children, even to this day.
    Another spiritual mentor, a pastor, has  opened my eyes in a deeper way to God's Word. He continues to send out excellent teachings and prophecies without asking for anything in return--except praise reports and  prayers. I think of this man as "infected with joy."
    Both of these people demonstrate the selflessness and generosity that you said characterize spiritual leaders, Michael. Thank you for a thought-provoking post.

  • Pauline, sounds like you have been well cared for. I think we would be in more trouble if we lost our spiritual leaders, than if we lost any other kind of leader. I am loving all the examples of how much we all need spiritual parenting.

  • Laurie Wallin, Speaker, Parenting/Life Coach, Mom of 4, and Parent of special needs. God-seeker. Overcomer. Confidence-builder. Incurable joy sharer.
    Bob, I've been struggling with a battle on the homefront with one of our adopted girls lately, and it's made me so insecure. This post was like a moment with Jesus, seeing Him smile over me about how I'm (trying to) live life. Thank you so much.
    (Edited by author 11 months ago)

  • Laurie, I am so sorry to hear of the struggles. I have a friend with some adopted kiddoes and she has been going through some real heartbreak. Stay the course, and connect to people and leaders who can help. I am glad to hear that this post helped. May you be strengthened to continue to lead hurting kids.

  • First things first. Your first point was outstanding, I cannot lead people where I haven't been. To have my flock pursue Christ, I have to pursue Christ. You are on point.

  • Thanks Scott, I fear the opposite if this is why so many have fallen in the past, and why so many people view the church through suspicious eyes. Sounds like you are leading well! Keep it up.

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